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Will we dance again?

by Ivica Anteski · May 12, 2020

Let’s talk about the elephant in the room. I imagine tango people around the world – dancers, teachers, school owners and events organizers scratching their heads with these burning questions…

Will tango survive? Should I focus on something else? How would tango world look like after Covid-19? How to make it work again?

Last week when I wrote this to my subscribers I had questions and almost no answers. I was frozen. Now there are still no definite answers, but there are at least some flags. After the survey we made with Alex, I have some data from the reality, so I can think.

A little background: Last week me and Alex made a little survey in hope to get some data to know what can we expect our tango world to look like after the pandemic. We made a little questionnaire in Google Forms and sent it out to our tango networks. Now, when we have the answers, I want to make some conclusions.

What is going on?

[Tweet ““Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards” ~ Soren Kierkegaard”]

Do I know the definite answers? No, I don’t! But that doesn’t mean I can’t talk about it and, even more important, do something.

Alex started his article about the survey with warning of dangers of misinterpretation of the data. He is right, one must be cautious. I will also add to his warning that this survey is far from true for all the tango communities in the world – it’s just a reflection of our little bubble of the tango universe.

On the other hand, I don’t want the danger to be wrong to paralyze me from drawing conclusions and making decisions. I’m willing to take the risk. What I can’t accept is the state of waiting.

Being wrong is not the worst thing one can do – being frozen is. I strongly believe that one must make a decision and follow it, and later, if there are red flags that it was wrong, make adjustments. Moving is the key, because life doesn’t wait, and we must move along.

[Tweet ““It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent; it is the one most adaptable to change.” — Charles Darwin”]

Why I’m not afraid to be wrong? I see much bigger danger in not having answers, than in having wrong answers. The worst thing in being wrongly optimistic about the future of tango is disappointment and false hope; the worst thing in being wrongly pessimistic about the future of tango is losing good dancers who will start new hobbies.

On the other hand, the worst thing in not having answer is anxiety and pressure (which in my personal case is measurable in the blood pressure level for example). Uncertainty is dangerous condition. Even deadly.

As I see here, the first two options are less scary than the last one.

Now, when we moved that out of our way, let’s get a closer look at the data. To be honest, it gives me some hope.

1. The average age will go down

The first question I wanted to find answer to was how willing the dancers in different age groups are to continue dancing?

I expected to see sharper difference. I expected older dancers to be more cautious and stay away from tango, and younger taking more risk. I’m happy that data shows that my expectations were wrong.

Are they are willing to dance if there is opportunity at the end of May vs June 2020?

According to what I see here, all people, no matter what age they are, are willing to continue their tango life after the pandemic is gone.

Yes, the average age of the tango community will go down – this means that we will see younger dancers- or to be more precise – less older people.

2. North Americans will dance less

I must say that unfortunately here we didn’t get enough data to even try to predict how will people behave in different locations. Except few countries (US, UK, Germany, Romania, Canada, Italy…) from other countries we got less than 10 answers, which is almost impossible to use to make analysis.

That might be because this survey reached just mine and Alex’s bubble of the tango universe. Having that in mind, don’t forget that this might give us some wrong conclusions. Anyway, I’m willing to make them – at least it’s entertaining to speculate.

According from what I can see in the data, the biggest losers will be the communities in Canada, US and UK.

How willing are they to go dancing?

Canada – May vs June

US – May vs June

UK – May vs June

On the other hand, it seems like Germans and Romanians are impatient to put their shoes on and dance as soon as possible.

Germany – May vs June

Romania – May vs June

From the data we have, I conclude that even their society decided to have liberal approach to the quarantine, Swedes are quite indecisive to rush to milongas and events.

Sweden – May vs June

After suffering huge hit from the COVID pandemic, one would expect that Italians would be cautious: but I’m surprised that data shows that there are a lots of Italians who are willing to go and dance (bigger percent than Canadians, let’s say) as soon as they can.

Italy – May vs June

Tango skills you can develop in isolation

by Ivica Anteski · May 4, 2020

It’s not that bad: the self-isolation might be even beneficial to developing some of the tango skills. We have a lots of time at hand; our bodies need some physical activity and our addicted mind crave anything connected to our favorite dance.

This article is all about that – what can you do to use this COVID-19 to actually benefit your tango dancing journey.

“I don’t understand”, she was telling me directly after almost every single one of my sentences.

It was frustrating. I tried harder and harder. I used more words, describing with analogies – but it seemed with no effect.

Than we tried dancing and the a-ha moment for her came almost as a magic. But, I had even bigger a-ha moment. In my mind came back the memory of all the previous private classes with different students when I tried explaining with words and it didn’t worked well.

I understood that there are two group of students . The first one are those who are inclined to first understand with their minds. They need to first understand the concept and then transfer what they learned to their body. They learn with their intellect.

The other group are more inclined to learn with their intuition. They need to see and feel and then they get it even without understanding how they do it.

Of course, you rarely find a student who belongs to the one or the other group 100%. I’m talking here about inclinations. The best students I had were those who learned with both, their intellect and their intuition.

[Tweet “The best students learn with their intellect and their intuition in the same time.”]

So, there are two ways you learn in tango. The one is the good old way of understanding and repeating what you learned (learning with your intellect).
The other way, which in the case of tango was actually older, is learning by doing – learning with your body (learning with your intuition).

Well, now, that we don’t have practicas and milongas, only way is for us to learn using our heads – with our intellect. So, those tips are focused on that.

1. Musicality – This is specially useful for men, since they are those who improvise the choreography during the dance. In my opinion we can develop our musicality in three ways.

First way is understanding how the tango music works. Yes, I’m talking here about the musical theory, but my point is not for you to learn about academic musicology etc. – my point is for you to start noticing patterns in the music while you listen. Listen to a tango song and follow the beat; notice how the beats are organized and think how can you use it in your dancing.

Second way is by watching videos of someone dancing. I will remind you about monkey-see-monkey-do principle: so pay attention what are you watching. I strongly oppose when people watch show/stage dancers and performances – don’t do it! You are making damage to your dancing and to the dancing of your community overall. We need less showing off at the milongas.

Here I would suggest you watch some milongueros – those guys developed their style not to show off, but to dance at milongas.

Third way is by dancing by ourselves. I remember a story about an old milonguero (I’m not sure was it Ricardo Vidort or Osvaldo Centeno) who sometimes danced by himself in the hallway when the floor was overcrowded.

“It gives you ideas about musicality”, he used to say.

The form you have selected does not exist.

2. Balance – There is one myth about tango which every student (as far as I can see, teachers as well) struggles with without understanding the point – namely, keeping the axis. People are persuaded that they need to learn balance to be able to dance properly, which in my opinion is wrong.

My point is this – we don’t need to keep our axis, we have to learn to control it. It’s not a words play, it’s a shift in definition that changes the approach.

Let me give you an example. Leave this article and start walking. Try to notice how the walk is actually a chain of positions where you are in and out of balance. Just open a Youtube video of a baby learning how to walk. You will see that the skill it actually learns is how to control the axis, not to keep it. Walking starts with losing the balance. Always.

Saying that, the exercises I recommend for controlling your balance are those:

1) Exercise the muscles bellow your knee. The stronger calves and ankles you have – the more control you will have on your balance. There are countless exercises on Youtube. Ladies can even check some of the exercises for ballerinas. Trust me, if you exercise at least 3-5 minutes a day, you will notice the difference even after few days.

2) Learn how to control the balance. Start walking and use as little muscle power as possible. This means you focus on the technique and not on the strength. Try to become aware how your body gets in and out of balance. It’s like you drive a bicycle – when you are making a turn, you always lose balance in a controlled manner.

For my patrons I prepared a list of recommended videos with exercises to help you with your balance.

Exercises selection that will help you with your balance

I selected a group of exercises you can use to strengthen your muscles to help you have better balance. Of course, you can always make your own search, but this is my selection – my experience shows me that you can find here all you need.

I recommend you to exercise 5-10 minutes every day. They are easy, but the impact will be huge. You can expect results even after 2-3 days. They are grouped in women focused and man focused, but you can freely mix them up as you like. You can pick and choose from those videos and make your own daily program.

Women focused

Men focused

Please have in mind that I’m not a medical professional, so if you have any condition, consult with your doctor first. I would also recommend you to stop exercising if you feel pain.

 

3. Tango culture – For me, one can’t be a complete dancer if he/she doesn’t understands the WHY behind all they do. Seeing tango as just a dance is like entering in a museum and seeing all the pictures turned towards the wall. There is a story behind all you do and that is what makes tango what it is – different story will create different experience, even if you do all the same movements in the dance. The context changes the content.

When they say that tango is a feeling and you can’t teach a feeling – I believe they neglect the fact that feelings are not natural. Feelings are produced and cultivated by our values and perceptions. The job of a teacher is to cultivate those feelings, to get the raw material of inner experiences of a dancer and refine it in to something subtle and beautiful.

Recommended sources about tango culture and history

Yes, you can always search online about tango culture and history of tango, but there are out there many sources which are not accurate or well organized. To help you out, I made a small selection. I strongly believe this can open new horizons in your tango development.

I prepared here a short list of free sources where you can learn more about history of tango:

We all know, in the covid pandemic is a big setback for tango , but that doesn’t mean we have to give up dancing. There will be chances to dance and socialize with out tango friends. It’s a gift no one can take away from us. Then, one day, things will start to get better… and that day will come.

Tango and self-isolation

by Ivica Anteski · April 21, 2020

The tango pandemic around the world was unfortunately stopped by another – deadlier pandemic. With tango, people lose their old life – with the corona virus some of us unfortunately lose life literally.

Who knows how the world will look like after the end of this situation? One thing I am sure about – we, the tango people, will be among the first who will rush the dance floors and dance out what we have missed all these months.

[Tweet “Nothing beats human interaction – Simon Sinek”]

Many of us miss tango so much that they invent all kinds of things to keep it alive. Virtual milongas. Online festivals and who knows what.

Nice try! But let’s not fool ourselves – it’s a poor substitute for the real thing.

The point of this article is to explain what it is that we miss and why internet can’t help.

Why do we love tango?

1. Closeness

Tango was born to make people get closer. It was meant to help those lonely emigrants find comfort from their everyday sufferings in the embrace of a stranger. And it did get them closer. In a spectacular way. Many of them, as we know from our own experience, were forever captured in the unbreakable embrace of this dance.

And there is a reason why – it heals that eternal loneliness. Like a drug, it numbs the aches of life and lifts up the spirit. We are social beings. Warm blodded creatures that thrive only when we feel connected. It’s not only important to be connected – even more, it’s important in what way we are connected. Tango breaks the distance and gives us an opportunity to connect, even for a 10 minutes tanda.

The form you have selected does not exist.

Back in the day, during the first tango “pandemic” in the first half of the XX century tango had bad public reputation. Doing tango was a revolutionary act. An act of rebellion against the order. The close embrace was so unacceptable by the moralists, that it was considered a public scandal.

2. Virtual is not a solution

Nothing beats human interaction. Internet is a great tool. I strongly believe in teaching online, but what internet can’t give you is that feeling when you embrace a human being and dance in a coordinated way.

“If social media and online relationships are so real, then why do over 30.000 bloggers and online experts gather in Vegas every year for a live event called Blogworld? Why not host it online? Because nothing can or will ever replace a face to face meeting and handshake.” – Simon Sinek, “Leaders Eat Last”.

You can watch him talk about it in this video

In fact almost everything that virtual communication is offering us is considered unnecessary in tango. Sometimes even impolite. For example, one would avoid dancing with someone that speaks during the dance. The magic is not in the words – the dancing is much deeper and much more powerful mode of communication. It has many folds bigger bandwidth than spoken language.

Seeing someone live online can be little better than just spoken word, but it’s still not the same. The touch is that ingredient that holds the secret. That thing that makes chemical explosions in our bodies. That makes our heart beat faster and stronger. The magic of the human touch.

3. Tango lives at milongas

Oh, how many times I told my students and I want everyone to start their learning process with this idea. Tango is not something you watch on TV or on Youtube. It’s not “Dancing with the stars”. It’s not a competition with judges. Tango is not something you do on stage. Tango dancers are not passive spectators – they are protagonists – they want to create the action.

Social tango dancers also don’t care much if somebody sees what they do – the only thing that matters is their partner. Of course, we all like to be admired by others who see us dancing, but, that is not the primary point.

The point of social tango is fulfilled in milongas. Human interaction. Glances, embrace. Human touch. Communication.

Then, you might ask, what can I do now, in self-isolation? No milongas. No possibility to dance with anyone. There are many things you can do. Play some music and dance with an imagined partner. Close your eyes and feel – it will give you ideas about musicality. It will also give you some feeling of connection – an imagined partner is still a partner for your brain.

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