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Tango Minimalism: Small Steps to Heaven

by Ivica Anteski · April 10, 2024

I’ve been wanting to write about tango minimalism for a while, and yet my thoughts on this topic are so intertwined with other topics that whenever I start – I end up writing about other stuff. In fact, the nature of simplicity is that it’s connected to complexity in unpredictable ways: it contains everything and yet shows very little in form.

It works for art – and it works for social tango as well, despite the fact that social dancing is not an art form.


Dancing Simple Is Hard

“I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free.” – Michelangelo

People usually think that when you start with tango, your dancing is at first simple and then, as you gain knowledge, it becomes complex. In fact, the opposite is the truth. Years of teaching experience taught me that everything for the beginner is complicated and complex.

It is complicated because there are things in tango that are difficult to understand without experiencing them: the beginner often has no idea where they are and where they are headed. For example, they’re so focused on the movements that they have no way to focus on the joy of connection.

On the other hand, learning tango is a complex undertaking even without that inexperience – there are many different concepts and skills that have to work in synchronicity. You need time to learn them and make them work together, and then maybe one day, you will get to the point when it works so well that it becomes simple.

When the master does it, it looks simple. You only discover how complex it is when you start learning it.


The Wisdom of Being in “Now”

“When once you have tasted flight, you will forever walk the earth with your eyes turned skyward, for there you have been, and there you will always long to return.” – Leonardo Da Vinci

Everything everywhere all at once is impossible. I guess you know the wisdom that you don’t set out to build a wall – you just lay one brick at a time, and soon you will have a wall. When you dance tango, everything happens now: the past is gone and the future is not yet. All you have is the movement and the embrace that happens now.

You should avoid doing transitional steps: moves that are just placeholders to take you to another step. Give meaning to everything!

I strongly believe that if you want to build a pleasurable experience in tango, you should pay attention to your every movement like it’s the showpiece. Learn how to enjoy even the simplest walking, and then the masterpiece will emerge from it.

You don’t set out to build a tanda; you focus to make this step the best you can… I’m not talking about sequence, I am talking about one move of your leg, one simple step. You touch the floor with your foot and then transfer the weight on it – and in that point is all your tango… your embrace stands on that foot, your future moves start right there, so be sure to execute it the best you can.

Be sure also to experience it fully and enjoy it. For, when you discover that pleasure, then the whole world of complexity and wonders will be offered to you.


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It’s Never Complex, It Just Feels That Way

“Simplicity is the final achievement. After one has played a vast quantity of notes and more notes, it is simplicity that emerges as the crowning reward of art.” – Frédéric Chopin

When it comes to movement, dancing might look very complex, especially when one doesn’t understand what’s going on; but that is just an illusion. Complexity emerges from simplicity. You have to let go of your ambition to do more, enjoy in less – and it will naturally lead to complexity.

It’s just like the three body problem – you have just three celestial bodies moving in each other’s gravitational vortex; and it doesn’t matter that they’re just three and move by simple rules – it creates a complex and unpredictable pattern.

I’ve heard critics saying that milonguero is “too boring”, “oversimplified” and other stuff, but I can argue that what they call “tango salon” (and nuevo) is oversimplified too. It may have a rich vocabulary of steps, but the side of connection and the emotional part are poor and neglected. Complexity there is not emergent, but it exists for its own sake.

It’s always the dancer’s choice to do steps they want, but what’s the point? Are the steps there just for their own sake, or do they fulfill a higher purpose? You can make a shirt like this – no one can stop you: but why? A normal shirt can serve the purpose and be elegant as well – without staying in the way of enjoying your time.

Yohji Yamamoto’s “Many buttons shirt”

Of course, if the purpose is to attract attention – yes, it works; but I don’t think the purpose of a mature tango dancer should be to attract other people’s attention.


As you might have noticed, we’ve come full circle. When one is a beginner dancer, everything is hard and seems complex. As one learns and gathers experience, their dancing becomes simpler, and they learn to enjoy simplicity (I believe this happens only if they’re properly guided to dance socially and not show off).

And then, as some sort of miracle, from that simplicity, a world of complexity emerges… majestic, enchanting, sophisticated… and mightily elegant.

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Open Letter to Encuentro Organizers: Produce Milonguero Videos

by Ivica Anteski · April 3, 2024

Old Milonguero Promoting Tango Milonguero

Dear milonguero events organizers,

I am sure you noticed that there is this perception among some dancers that tango milonguero is a dying thing; something which was something in the past and does no longer exist. Many think that the natural development of tango went into direction they call “tango salon”, appropriated term which is basically toned down version of tango escenario.

I believe that what they don’t understand is that social tango (the real tango salon), or tango milonguero, actually is still existing and developing far away from what has been served to them.

I’m not that long in the world of tango: my decade and a half long tango adventure is minuscule compared to some much more experienced dancers. But, I’ve been around long enough to witness how one by one we lost almost all of the best milongueros who lived in the Golden Age. They were our unbroken thread who preserved tango as it was in the Golden Age, something on witch we built upon to develop social tango as it is today.

Last one we said goodbye to was the great El Chino Perico (1931-2024). He witnessed the rise and fall of tango, and participate in it’s renewal.


The Current Landscape

The view that milonguero is an outdated relic of the past must be challenged. Not because we love milonguero, but because this perception is wrong.

For example, while traveling to encuentros and other events, I personally witnessed great milonguero dancers. They dance that way because they find it most suitable for social purposes, but the problem is that people who don’t travel (usually the newcomers) rarely have the opportunity to see them. Those are social dancers and never perform: they usually don’t feel comfortable to be filmed.

So, when I talk to my students about milonguero, I understand that it really feels like it’s something from the past. Most of the videos we have are mostly 10 or more years old, and the vast majority of them show performances of the old milongueros from the Golden Age – usually already past their 60s.

It really feels like milonguero is for old people!

On the other hand, Youtube and other social platforms are flooded with videos of shows and performances. Usually, those are show videos of young ambitious people who put a lot of effort to make a name for themselves – so there’s a lot of advertising going into it. The organizers of festivals and workshops are also pushing this kind of videos to sell their events.

And, I agree – the nature of tango escenario is such that it’s much easier to sell. Its purpose is to captivate attention, which is great for becoming viral content among tango enthusiasts.

On the other hand, social dancers and milongueros are not even feeling comfortable being filmed, let alone being virally shared on social media (I know because I feel like that as well).

On top of that, their dancing is not quite attractive to watch, especially for beginners who still haven’t experienced the bliss of dancing simply and with great connection. So, milonguero videos are considered boring to watch for an inexperienced eye.

All of that results in a lack of representation of milonguero on online platforms – which sadly has a huge influence on people’s perception, and even more sadly on how tango is being danced around the world.


What Should We Do?

I think we need to produce more videos of contemporary milonguero dancers. We also need videos that show that there are also younger people dancing milonguero.

Milonguero is social dancing, but it can be performed as well.

Dancing With the Devil: Should Milonguero be Performed?

The benefit of this is multifold. First, I see this as a way to change the wrong perception that milonguero is something from the past. Second, it will vastly contribute to the development of milonguero – watching other milongueros dancing contributes to your own style and we’re creating a rich and diverse culture around it.

The roadblocks for this are also multifold. First, people who dance milonguero don’t like to be filmed. Also, the participants of milonguero events usually don’t like milongas to be interrupted with performances – like they do at festivals. I am also one of those – as a dancer, DJ, and organizer I also hate when the flow of the event is being disrupted.


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How Do We Do It?

My proposal is to produce and distribute videos of a skillful couple demonstrating/performing tango milonguero. I must note here that organizers must be cautious to choose a milonguero, not a show-dancing couple, and know how to make the difference. There are many performers that represent their dancing as milonguero, but in fact, are just a trimmed-down version of tango escenario.

1. The first thing to do is to arrange a deal with the couple
Since many of these couples are probably teachers as well, this deal will be helpful for their work as well, since it’s great promotion.

2. Choose wisely when the couple should perform
Milonguero aficionados usually don’t like when milongas are disrupted by performances – this makes things a little bit complicated. If the couple is giving workshops, then it’s much easier: it’s nice to finish the workshop with a demonstration.

When it comes to encuentros or milongas, the interruption is the most obvious option if you want to have a performance with people watching around. But, maybe there is an alternative option as well: the performance can be done after the last tanda when people have finished their night but are still present in the venue to see the performance.


I don’t claim that this is the ultimate solution; it’s just my idea and a proposal. If you have other ways to produce more high-quality videos that promote contemporary milonguero dancers – I’m all for it. I’ll be happily sharing them, promoting your event and the couple along the way.

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Dehumanizing tango

by Ivica Anteski · March 27, 2024

We have decoupled society from nature. We have decoupled sex from intimacy. We have decoupled thinking from feeling. We have even decoupled tango from human nature. I don’t have to be an expert psychologist or sociologist to recognize that this cannot happen without causing damage and alienation, without creating defects, and without losing something essential.

The dehumanizing direction we are all headed in as a society reflects how tango is danced as well. I’m not saying there’s a single right way or an ultimate prototype of what tango should be. I’m simply suggesting that when I view tango in a broader context, it appears to me that it has the potential to be much more. If we were not living in an environment that inflicts scars on our souls every day.

If you don’t see it or feel it, then “Merry Christmas to you!” 🙂

But I do feel it. I see that tango is becoming dehumanized, castrated, sanitized… and this results in a lack of fulfillment and happiness in dancers who seek a deeper meaning and humanity.

Why do we love tango?

Don’t dance to impress

On the other hand, this state of thing is a breeding ground for exhibitionists and people with large egos. They are often viewed as the primary movers and leaders within the tango communities. I mean those who dance to show their skills rather than searching for genuine connections, those who “fish for attention” and dance for the spectators.

But there’s another aspect that bothers me: newcomers often have their perceptions of tango influenced by this behavior.

I believe that individuals with a little sensitivity are often discouraged from the start. Meanwhile, potential exhibitionists are encouraged by this environment and are drawn into it. As a result there is an increasing number of exhibitionists within the community.

Unfortunately we live in a tango world where flashy skills are often valued more than deep connections. We frequently see dancers who choose their partners not because they are interesting personalities to connect with, but because they are “good dancers” who will support them to showcase their abilities.

The partner is not a true partner anymore; instead, the partner becomes just a tool, an object utilized to enhance their dancing skills. The partner becomes an extension of their ego.

This is one of the reasons I believe that connection in tango should never be viewed just as a tool for executing steps, but rather as the ultimate goal of the dance itself. The steps are just tests for the authenticity and depth of the connection.

"It is better to sacrifice the step, than the connection.", a quote by Marcela Duran

Selling off

I admit, commercialization can sometimes contribute to development, but we must always be aware that when money is involved, something is lost. I think this applies to everything, from sports to arts and entertainment, and certainly to tango as well. How so?

When different teachers advertise their skills by performing on stage, or even in some distasteful cases, on the dance floor – newcomers believe that’s the direction their tango development should take. They might think that doing fancy steps should be part of their repertoire, so they can also impress others one day.

I’m strongly against this!!! It’s a failure of the tango industry to neglect the part of tango revolving around the emotion and the connection. As a result, I see that tango has become a soulless caricature of itself… a sport…. a competition…

Of course, teachers and tango professionals have to make a living from tango, but I don’t believe that promoting this cheap acrobatic version is the solution. Firstly, the target group for that version of tango tends to be individuals with exhibitionistic and self-centered tendencies.

On the other hand, I believe society, the people living in this world, need a more subtle version of tango – one that values human kindness, understanding, connection, and emotion.

We deal with enough egoists and self-centered people in our everyday lives – tango can be (and often is) a refuge where we can embrace vulnerability. Competitiveness and exhibitionism can’t help there!

I get it, cultivating this subtle side of tango takes time, dedication, and love for the people we teach – something which is expensive, even priceless. But, that doesn’t fit well with the financial side of the enterprise. The commercialized version of tango most of the time overlooks it, giving newcomers only the form, the steps, the technique, and occasionally, the musicality.

The context is often left for the students to discover themselves, and about the content (emotion, connection), I have an impression that it’s often not even mentioned. Sometimes, it’s even discouraged, with statements like “you can’t teach an emotion,” and in some communities, it’s even taboo to talk about passion and emotions.


How to Cultivate Emotion?

When I talk about teaching complicated steps, a video of Carlos Gavito comes to mind, where he emphasizes that it’s a failure of the teachers if they don’t point out to their students that it’s not all about the steps, and you can dance perfectly fine by just doing salidas.

He suggests that students record a video of themselves dancing with those fancy moves to see how bad it looks, and then they will understand the importance of dancing simply.

“But how do you teach connection and emotion? Isn’t simple dancing boring?” you might ask.

Dancing without complicated steps can be boring only if there’s nothing else to enjoy but the steps and skills themselves. Connection opens a whole world of discovering the other person and channeling your own emotions to them as well.

You don’t dance with the music, nor for the ronda – you dance with a person. A human being is in front of you in your embrace – and that’s most important. No elegance, no musicality, no other thing should come before that.

I don’t know about you, but I find tango performances somewhat ugly. I often sense a lot of fakery, acting, choreographed parts, and a focus on showcasing abilities; many times I see a lack of authentic emotion and spontaneous behavior – to me, it feels like a soulless try to sell tickets and advertise workshops. Please don’t confuse them with social tango, because when you do, it leads to dehumanization.


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I often say that there’s something wrong with tango, but I’m wrong: tango itself is fine; the problem is with the world we live in – tango just reflects that reality.

People dance the way they are, and a big part of who they are is shaped by the society in which they live. I don’t believe it’s easy to change the world or to change tango, but I am convinced that both you and I can begin by reconsidering how we approach our dancing.

The next time you step onto the dance floor, remember that you’re dancing with a human being; not merely with another dancer, not with the music, and not for the onlookers.

There’s a person there in your embrace, containing an entire universe within them – their fears, their dreams, their insecurities…

Embrace them as if it were your last hug, for who knows, it might indeed be the last.

Give without reservation, and don’t hesitate to receive when it’s offered to you. Because tango is more than just a dance; if we believe this, I know tango has the potential to change the world.

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